People who understand “game” — AKA, the Battle of the Sexes — will tell you in modern Western societies, America in particular, the best approach is none at all. That is, for a guy who really wants to get her attention, he has to pay her almost none. Glance at her because she’s attractive to you, but don’t let her see you overcome by it. Glance away as if she isn’t really all that interesting. The game is to come just short of ignoring her, says one expert, and so say a lot of others, as well.
The biggest struggle for guys is overcoming that overcoming power of feminine beauty. Women dress to compete with each other, and in part simply to please themselves; that it happens to affect guys is just part of the fun, but not central. If it knocks you out, they win, and you lose. If you don’t seem to be impressed, you are more interesting. The ball is still in her court as to whether she notices you, but that’s another matter. If you keep putting yourself in situations where other men are strutting like peacocks, you have to be competitive. If you put yourself in situations to encounter women in other settings, you are more likely to be the center of her attention, if only briefly.
So game is a matter of grabbing her attention, and a critical element is not letting her take the high ground. She is driven to seek the high ground, but oddly reacts more favorably when she can’t have it. The best gamers, of course, are those who aren’t driven so driven by their neediness. You have to convince her you aren’t desperate, or she will simply toy with you. You don’t win her affections; she has to win yours. Make yours precious and hard to get, because you have more important things to worry about. It’s crazy, but generally accurate.
Walking in the Spirit means you know God put men in charge by design, and if women take the lead, things go awry. It’s not as if she can’t advise you wisely, but you are the president and carry the final veto. That’s not a privilege or right, but a burden of responsibility. But walking in truth means not playing the game. So while the game is ignoring her, as it were, it’s best of all to ignore the game. The real man of God needs God, knows it, and is never satisfied with what he has of God, and what God has of him. Women are important only if God says they are. See where this goes? You don’t have to play the game to win.
The spiritual man is decent with everyone, but not fawning. He has a mission and needs no one’s approval on this earth. He can afford to relax and let people have whatever it is they demand, unless that demand is something in your hands God does not permit you to give. You and you alone can discern what God forbids, and no other human on earth can do more than advise you. Being your true best self — committed to Truth, empathic, yet disengaged — ends up putting you at the top of the game. This puts you in a position to draw more suitable women in the first place. That they may not be the finest foxy babes should not concern you, if you are spiritually minded.
Rightly does Apostle Paul describe human sexuality as the single greatest affliction in terms of holiness. Stop playing the game, and you’ll win anyway. You’ll have the very best God can build for you. In a sense, the same holds true with women who seek the Spirit. Don’t pursue him just because he is interesting to you. When the time comes, and you meet him, God will can tell you if you are listening. If not, both of you have better things to do. If it matters too much, you are already wrong.
