Mysticism and Marriage

Marriage is a tool.
Marriage is not your life; it is the framework in which most people are supposed to operate for their lives. We are fundamentally designed to rely on one critical partner. That partner makes possible our sanity as we forge a divine hyper-reality against our fallen reality.
A critical element of that divine hyper-reality is recognizing we do not marry for love. Attraction is a variable, not destiny. Love always grows from shared hardship. If your partnership is wisely chosen, no other particulars matter, because love will grow from a glowing coal into a life long blazing furnace. That is how we are wired; it never fails unless there is something inside us too badly broken to follow God’s path.
The issue is a sense of calling. Everyone on this earth is called by God, in one sense or another. Each of us born in this plane of existence has a hope for peace with God and His Creation. It has far less to do with occupation and everything to do with a fundamental orientation about having a sense of purpose. Searching in itself is the fundamental purpose. Should you spend your entire life struggling to discern, and then you die with a sense you never found it, you have still lived justly as God sees it.
Holiness is defined by desire, not success and certainly not any particular measure of human understanding.
Damaged people carry their damage into everything. Our society so flagrantly disregards God’s revelation that we should never be surprised most marriages don’t work well. However, once you are in it, God’s mandate is to make the most of it. You cannot make a marriage work, but you can work God’s glory within it. If that kills the marriage, it was already dead.
Marriage serves the mission or it falls away as a carcass.