I’m feeling crappy today, though hardly so bad as others who went through the same URI before me here. Right now it’s a little hard to think, but I’ll try.
For the first time in a very long time, someone out of the blue asked me for social advice. You could see the poor fellow was a bit worked up about getting out of a bad situation. It had nothing to do with romance and everything to do with Game.
As I’ve noted here before, if you can focus on what it takes to be a genuine woman-magnet, you’ll also do quite well in virtually every other activity, but especially is this true of social situations. This fellow had a serious game deficit. He didn’t know how to deal with a manipulative old lady that was pushing him too hard for little favors. Regardless of her needs, he was not in a position to adopt the old gal and do for her. He was clearly worried about the repercussions of telling her she had worn out her welcome.
You can probably guess my advice, but I told him the first thing was to be direct, to work out how he was going to tell her that she demanded too much. I suggested he play through his head repeatedly how he felt she would react and simply embrace any social punishment she might dole out. He also worried about her family members, these all being associates and friends since his childhood. I told him each person’s response was a separate issue, despite how they might use his choice as an excuse for various things they might do.
I also encouraged him to start being the same man in all contexts. Naturally, we know you don’t always reveal what sort of man or woman you are as fully in every context, but you never change your basic personality. So I suggested he stop the social schizophrenia, pull himself together and learn to live with a crappy world.
Who knows? It might do him some good. I’ve been lifting his name before the Lord.
I’d like to think this will snowball into the same kind of ministry outreach to others. I’d like to think this signals I am able to project my game frame in places like the gym, where I am definitely outmatched by some really big and studly bodybuilders. Self-confidence and comfort with your own skin does come across; some folks are drawn and some driven away. That’s how it is in this world. Some will want what you’ve got and others flee it for whatever reason. He was afraid of something and the hunger of his soul recognized my lack of fear.
After all, game frame is just another term for godliness, for walking in His justice.
