A Thousand Ways to Say: Be Yourself

The biggest mistake we make is rejecting opportunities to assert our personal independence. The second biggest is refusing appropriate support when it’s available. Both require you bother to look in the mirror of your soul pretty often.
It would require a set of encyclopedias to cover all the various ways I’ve heard it said: Discover yourself and live from that. Chase down all the most useful schools of psychology. Within their acknowledged limitations, they always seek the same thing, which is to reduce dependency and encourage accountability. How about Transactional Analysis? That’s all about breaking out of the conditioning of your youth, and breaking the habits of responding to the expectations of others to whom you really owe no such dependency. Parent Effectiveness Training? Same story but the other side of the coin; stop taking control and responsibility for things you can’t fix.
Game Theory? Throw aside the cultural mythology of human sexual response and operate according the facts of human nature. Don’t be restrained by feminist lies which dominate our social structure. Or the politics of the Tea Party? Plenty of mythology there, but the central theme of reducing the Nanny State has always been a good idea. I go farther by saying the modern State is all wrong in the first place, since it is specifically formulated to dissolve human rights and freedoms by making them mere ideas subject to debate. Western Civilization refuses to admit there is anything of substance beyond the material world, despite any pile of words to the contrary. You aren’t permitted to propose moral realities which aren’t subject to human inspection and logical analysis. Among those higher moral assumptions is the very fundamental necessity of people taking an awful lot more control over their own lives than any Western government can tolerate. It’s the nature of the beast.
Yet we are also designed with distinct limitations. We are required to seek a certain level of protection and support from others. Some threats are just too big, and no one is competent and talented at everything humans need to do. The big problem we always have until The End of all things will be the vast number of ways we do it wrong. There has to be some balance between dependence and independence, and human history has seen precious little effective balance.
In raising these issues, I would hardly be helpful if I pretend my answer is the only right one. That would be a grand hypocrisy. Rather, the purpose here is to raise the question. That’s the only real answer I have. I’ve written it repeatedly: Questioning is the answer. That’s the whole point. The only way to get it wrong is not looking into it. Underlying my philosophy-theology-theory is the assumption whatever absolutes there may be in all of this would surely be outside our ability to perceive and state. The best possible world includes the natural conflicts arising from differences of opinion. It’s the shape of the give-n-take I struggle most to define. Again, there has to be some balance between seeking our own self-realization versus stomping someone else unnecessarily.
It’s not the answer, but the seeking part for which I have the strongest sense of moral definition. Nothing else I do or say matters a whit against this one thing: You need to search.

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Scientific Linux 6: Build Chromium Browser

I couldn’t find a current build for any of the RHEL 6 clones of Chromium, so I did it myself.
Short and sweet; if you don’t understand the process of using RPMbuild, you’ll need to read up on that.
Get your SRPMs here. Take one of each SRPM listed there. Aside from the basic development libraries, and whatever extra dependencies pop up during the RPMbuild process, you should probably start with:

yum install subversion pkgconfig python perl gcc-c++ bison flex gperf nss-devel nspr-devel gtk2-devel glib2-devel freetype-devel atk-devel pango-devel cairo-devel fontconfig-devel GConf2-devel dbus-devel alsa-lib-devel libX11-devel expat-devel bzip2-devel dbus-glib-devel elfutils-libelf-devel libjpeg-devel mesa-libGLU-devel libXScrnSaver-devel gnome-keyring-devel cups-devel libXtst-devel libXt-devel pam-devel

That’s according to this page. Finally, you’ll need the latest libvpx, libvpx-utils and libvpx-devel from ATrpms — make sure you select the ones for your architecture (i686 vs. x86_64). The slightly older version available from SL repositories won’t work, leaving you an unfix-able error on building one of the SRPMs.
I’m not sure what the canonical build order is, but I went in this order and it worked fine:

  1. v8
  2. libsrtp
  3. libjingle
  4. chromium-ffmpegsumo
  5. chromium

Naturally, you’ll need both the base and “devel” package from each build except the last, the browser itself. I note this build (12.0.742.91) does not offer the silly nonsense about trying to execute “text relocations” which aren’t allowed under SELinux. However, not a bit of your Chrome configurations will be picked up, and Chromium completely failed to import any bookmarks from anywhere. I had to manually move them and reinstall all the extensions I use (Flashblock, Adblock Plus, and Ghostery).
Enjoy.

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Soap Opera World

Few people are more deeply enslaved than those who won’t walk away.
These days the thing which angers me most is one person seeking to remove the options God granted to others. This ranges between literal physical force all the way down to the most subtle deceptions. Does the physically impotent bear any less guilt than the one simply distracted from birth? If all you’ve ever known are restrictions, then lightweight chains look like freedom. The widow who simply must have her daily dose of TV soap operas is no more guilty than the prisoner who avoided all those opportunities to work out so as to be harder to capture. Both forms of captivity were carefully planned by someone with a will to harm others for their own gain.
The world is a predatory place, and the consumption of life takes all forms. The balance of advantage swings like a pendulum. The cycle is familiar to most of us. Some shift in the natural environment brings a wealth of passive food, and the grazer population explodes. Behind them, the predators explode to exploit the grazers. At some point, the predators overpower their own food supply. Increasing competition eliminates the less able, sending them away empty handed to die. Among humans, the predators have implemented herding and controlling the grazers, but that can also be carried too far to work right.
In many ways, our world is currently near the end of that cycle. You can read chase the news sources, both mainstream and alternative, and find lots of soap opera, in all flavors. Name your poison. A current theme popular in many of these dramas is the impending crisis from excess debt. Whole countries have borrowed more than they could possibly repay. It was okay while the economy was rolling along, but there has been a contraction, a reduction in economic activity. We seem to see the system breaking down, unable to support the previous frenzy of activity. We see the very wealthy scrambling to maintain control, refusing to reduce their own frenzy of consumption. Because of the levers they can touch, which are completely out of our reach, we find them sucking up all the available wealth and leaving us nothing. So we stop producing and start scratching for survival, and a great many will simply not make it, lacking any comprehension and capability to adapt.
But when it all comes to a halt, will the plutocrats suffer any? Have they so confined the herd of grazers there is nothing left to strip from those bony carcasses?
That’s the drama, at least. The real threat is not that Greece is on the verge of defaulting, threatening to be the first domino to fall, knocking the whole thing flat in cascading waves of failure. The real threat is that we have been such suckers for those who actually run this system. If you read the news from all the various sources, it’s easy to miss the one important item: You and I are not in control of our destinies on that level. Sure, there are limits to this control, particularly for those of us who possess some superior ability to escape, either fleet of foot or smart enough to anticipate and dodge the predators’ swipe. The real problem is that we have chosen to be herded.
The reason soap operas succeed in capturing viewers is because we all need a sense of belonging. We are not solitary creatures unless something inside is broken. But substitute socializing on the TV or Internet cannot really fill that void, that sense of loneliness which is a primary effect of the Fall. Somewhere along the path out of the Garden, we forgot something which we were permitted to carry away with us. We were slapped with the curse of living by the sweat of our brows, but that didn’t mean we had to work alone. We could still reach across the gulf of isolation from others and include in our work routine the burden of keeping relationships alive. The hardest thing you’ll ever do is create community the way it was meant to be.
One of the biggest chains on all humanity right now is the false logic of specialization and division of labor. That’s fine if you are a machine, but you shouldn’t aspire to that. No one can do all things possible to humanity at large; there are limits. Each of us carries our own unique collection of them. But we need not assume without question the limits we are told by someone else. Such information serves merely to help us estimate the likely cost of something we haven’t yet tried for ourselves. It may turn out the price of pushing some limit is pretty cheap compared to the returns. The principle of high efficiency of labor utilization for greater economic production presumes too much on human wisdom. Better to hedge your bets by cross training into everything for which you can estimate some value. Never believe you are out of choices simply because what you did before is no longer possible.
Right now the plutocrats are trying to set Greece on fire. They are playing both sides of the conflict between government austerity and popular dissent. They are guiding the discussions between government figures in the Eurozone, then leaking selective details mixed with lies so the various news sources will play their role in stirring support for what appears to be two sides to a debate which ignores the real questions. The soap opera with all its plot twists keeps everyone glued to their sources. About the only thing of genuine interest here is it seems the plutocrats have decided to set their first ambushes in Europe, seeking to begin the final plan of enslavement there first. What we see there may be a clue to what’s coming here to America.
The plutocrats will continue playing us to the end. Stirring the fear of economic collapse on one side, they drop the bait of stability on the other side, which rests on the most hideous trap of all — voluntary enslavement. The most powerful chains of all are those you forge for yourself. The conditions of life may well be constrained by circumstances far outside our control, but not all of them. Who said cows can’t climb cliffs? Who said you were a cow in the first place?
Most of what we think we know about the coming tough times is surely wrong. That life on this planet is about to become much more unpleasant for a sizable chunk of humanity is pretty obvious, but it’s not some accident arising from a series of miscalculations. It’s not simply the combined foolish choices of a string of elected rulers. They were herded, too. The whole system is a pile of lies meant to teach us to be cows. Selective breeding and feed lots produce meat which makes a profit, not a life to make cows happy, nor to produce the best quality of meat. It’s a vast supply of nearly toxic flesh with only a vague resemblance to real food, but it’s predictable and almost totally under the control of the meat companies. Or so they think, until we start seeing plagues resistant to the medications they’ve been slipping in the feed. It’s not just a lie for us as consumers, but a lie for the meat company executives, because the whole thing is on the verge of breaking down. Even more important is how it symbolizes the much bigger lies. We have been herded into nasty feed lots and fed a most unnatural diet of falsehoods, and the plutocrats have decided it’s time to eliminate all the free range and feral cattle so there is no competition for their system of production. The problem is, most of the alternative styles of life offered to our awareness still come with horns and mooing. The plutocrats’ hired cowhands are saddling up right now, and will be roping and herding, but you don’t have to make it easy — at least take the horns off.
What we often consider our best protection and proud distinction is nothing more than an excuse to be prickly and weaken your chance at friendships. When you start looking for excuses to overlook someone else’s foibles, when you start remembering you have your own foibles to overlook, and you don’t try to conform every link to other humans according to some convenient formula, you’ll find yourself with fewer friends, but real ones. Keep your friendships in the moment, because you know better than to want control over the supply of friendship. Only what’s freely given is worth having. There’s plenty of real soap operas in simple free human society on this fallen plane. You don’t need to experience it vicariously through someone else’s fake dramas.

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I Can't Drive…

Reference the famous song by Sammy Hagar song. Today is my birthday; can you guess the numbers?
Now, most of those “senior discounts” kick in and you can start making fun of me with symbols of decrepitude and death. I already have a walking cane, so you’re too late on that one. And I had a series of wheelchairs until after my knee surgery, so that won’t be too funny. But I welcome any and all poking fun because, as always, I don’t take myself too seriously.
Actually, I’m closer to Hagar’s video. I can’t run any more, and I haven’t driven like a maniac in a very long time. But I still love the music genre, still appreciate fine powerful toys machinery, and I would wear crazy outfits like Sammy’s if they would fit me. For some reason, you can’t find that stuff in 2x these days, not in my price range. And while I’ve had long hair, it got pointless some time ago when there simply wasn’t enough of it sprouting any more.
So even though I still work out and people tell me I look intimidating, I’m old enough to have zero appreciation for how smartphones have destroyed computer GUIs. I’ll never use a computer which doesn’t have a keyboard made for my fat fingers. To be honest, I’m old enough to consider a computer nothing more than a fancy typewriter. Were I not pretending I was a writer, I’d have never gotten my first one, back when DOS was still the dominant PC OS. I still have my favorite DOS office suite on CD, which originally came on 16 floppies — Enable.
Have a laugh on me.

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Whimper: Google Chrome Broken Again (Updated)

You can probably ignore this whiny-gram unless you need a chuckle.
I run Scientific Linux 6, a clone of Red Hat Enterprise Linux. It includes by default a very nice system security package called SELinux. It was designed with the help of alphabet soup federal agencies to enhance the security of Linux systems, probably one of the only honest things we ever got from the government. It’s primary objective is to prevent execution of binaries and scripts which could cause harm to the operating system. It used to be a messy tangle, always getting in the way. When RHEL 6 Beta came out, it had been vastly improved. I no longer recommend turning it off, because it seems to serve the intended purpose without getting in the way.
The problem is people who develop software for Linux tend to ignore it. From one release to the next, I’m never sure when Google Chrome, for example, will fail to work against SELinux. Last night was an update, and once again, it fails completely.
I won’t bother pasting the errors here. Alright, here it is:

/opt/google/chrome/google-chrome: /lib/libz.so.1: no version information available (required by /opt/google/chrome/google-chrome)
/opt/google/chrome/chrome: error while loading shared libraries: cannot restore segment prot after reloc: Permission denied

I’ve done some extensive searching, and even the developers at Google seem pretty confused about it. It doesn’t help they insist on building everything on Ubuntu, and can’t be bothered to use a free Red Hat clone for the RPM packages. So the executables keep asking for some response peculiar to Debian-based system calls. Most of the time, it doesn’t prevent Chrome from running, but it does too often. This time, though, it seems to be an error bouncing off SELinux. All the advice I could find was “disable SELinux” or to grant Chrome some unreasonable level of permissive freedom with any normal restrictions.
This is insane. I’ve already shown in previous posts Google developers will lie about how Chrome works. If it’s not lying, it’s an abysmal lack of knowledge. They aren’t worthy of any such high level of trust. Further, the one greatest attack vector on the Net seems to be browser vulnerabilities, and they think I should turn off the one best layer of security I can have against browser exploits? For all the advantages there may be from using Chrome, it’s not worth the trouble any more. I used to think GNOME and KDE developers were arrogant, but I’ve not seen anything like the hostility to user accountability one sees coming from Google and Webkit developers.
Of course, the Firefox fanboys deserve to be slapped around a bit, too. All versions of Firefox, whether built and optimized on my system, or simply installed as a package, nearly choke on rather simple and mundane JavaScript on major sites. It bogs down my system to the point it’s almost unusable, with only two tabs open — and one of those has a very simple HTML page without even any graphics.
Right now, only the console-based browsers and Opera work well enough to bother.
Update: I think I understand now why Chrome fights with SELinux: It wants permission to do something no browser should. This is the debut of the so-called Native Client technology, in which applications can run from the browser directly on the hardware, with all the same privileges and power of native applications built for the OS. After all the horrific threats we’ve seen over the years from Web attacks taking advantage of unrecognized security holes in browsers, attacking the OS itself, now Google wants to implement it on purpose. The arrogance and ignorance is stunning.
The only hope is learning how to turn off this feature when you build the Open Source version of Chrome called Chromium.
Addenda: I didn’t find out how to turn off the Native Client business, but I did learn how to build Chromium from SRPMs and it does work better.

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Advertising Slavery

It’s easy to ignore moral principles when it makes you money.
Advertising as we experience it today is nothing more than slavery. It’s designed to enslave the choices and wallets of “consumers.” The very choice of the term “consumer” reduces the mass of humanity to a collection of ATMs. Sure, you advertisers claim to give some value for the exchange, but you cannot possibly entertain the notion what you are selling is simply not need. The only reason you don’t put buyers in a cage is because it’s too much trouble and it might get you killed. Advertisers are scum.
Since the Garden of Eden, we have seen humanity is vulnerable to deception. Satan is the Father of Lies, and his first accomplishment was selling a falsehood to a couple of folks ill prepared to fight the lies. Their operating assumption was communication had only the purpose of sharing, not controlling. Ultimately, lying is an attempt to control the behavior of another by denying him full and accurate information. People are gullible about things they don’t have time to study. We have an instinct to trust one another, and it’s damaging to the human psyche to be taught to fear and distrust. The damage can be mitigated by how we go about teaching it, but most of the time it comes by the most painful experience of betrayal. This is what leaves so many scars.
Nor should we simply wallow in this foul reality. There are moral laws in this universe, and ignoring them guarantees other people get hurt. That your conscience might lack any ability to perceive guilt does not remove that guilt. At some point you will pay — so says the God of Creation.
No one in the advertising business has clean hands today. That’s because the whole idea of advertising is not about communications, regardless of what they call it. Advertising is about persuasion, manipulation, and whether it actually offers something people need is hardly a consideration. Real world testing has shown there are methods, some illegal, which bypass normal human resistance to deception. Advertisers have made a science of using them, and were it not for legal restraints, no method would be ignored.
Concrete example: We know the human mind operates visually in snap-shot fashion. We are hardly conscious of this, but there are host of things which prove it. Look up the terms “nystagmus” and “saccade” and you’ll begin to understand the human mind operates by gathering a collection of still shots and constructing a smooth image, but apparently cannot simply absorb the smooth image itself. Most of us retain bits of memory from focal points of any scene displayed before us. (This also explains how we miss visual details, but that’s another subject.) It is entirely possible to replicate a sense of smooth reality using a series of still images appearing before the eyes at a rate faster than the normal mental snapshot rate. Thus, we have movies. We also know it is entirely possible to insert messages into the movies which are captured only in the subconscious. Not simply by representative imagery and associations, but standard advertising logos cultural images can be flashed on a single a few frames, and it does not register consciously, but is processed nonetheless (see addenda below). It still prompts a desire for the advertised product, bypassing the normal conscious process of thinking about the product first. This is illegal in the US, and that fact is the only thing preventing advertisers using it. They lobbied hard to make it legal.
There is no reason to imagine any advertiser, down to the very individuals involved in the entire industry, would not gladly take advantage of such underhanded tactics. Surveying the entire range of efforts since the earliest efforts at commercial advertising indicates a relentless effort to sucker readers into wanting something they might not normally even consider. If people already wanted the item in question, there would be no need for advertising. Thus, we have this ubiquitous effort to overcome “buyer resistance.” It goes so far as to treat such resistance as evil, which stands the whole equation on its head. In moral parlance, turning something upside down is called “perversion” — advertising is inherently perverted.
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
Addenda: I realize Snopes and a few others have tried to debunk the original story on subliminal advertising. Yes, I realize I had forgotten something so blatant as a single frame devoted entirely to the advertising logo is not going to work. The real story is actually later efforts with far greater subtlety than the old urban legend depicts. It’s a Straw Man Fallacy. When a few frame are slightly altered, all within certain artistic limits and matched to the cultural bias of the audience, there appears to be some effect, though the results are not immediately measurable.

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Vaccine Anti-Propaganda Site Attacked

More than once I’ve presented evidence here against modern vaccines. That’s not to say no vaccine does what is claimed, but that most of the newer ones don’t. One of the sites I tend to watch for information about this is The Natural Society.
In the last few days, there site was cracked by someone who obviously didn’t appreciate the new campaign: Vaccine Information Week. Near as I can tell, it was specifically targeting this event.
So what better advertising to the importance of something than to see big money try to take it off the Net?

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Triumph of the Tribe

God revealed Himself in a cultural context, one He designed and implemented Himself as the ideal for humanity. The context is part of the revelation.
God’s revealed Laws presume a tribal nation social structure. The promises are conditioned on this assumption, though it’s not absolute. You can approach the Laws and blessings begin to manifest, but the really good stuff is reserved for those who truly commit themselves. Further, it’s wired into the Creation itself. No other system will really work for very long. His Laws further presume a government which arises from this same social structure, using the cultural and intellectual climate as your guide.
It won’t matter what flaws you see in this model for human life. For all its flaws, nothing better is possible. God is not impressed with your Aristotelian logical evaluations. Aristotle rejected revelation, so you aren’t even on the same planet unless you understand and use the intellectual frame of reference in which revelation was given.
Not fair, you say? Argue with God; I’m just reporting what He says. Nothing in my hands or in my words is a threat to your plans and dreams to the contrary. It’s simply my responsibility to remind you of what He actually says so you can’t deceive yourself that He somehow must bless your brilliant ideas. The only reason I rehash this so often is because people stumble upon my blog and presume I’m somehow obliged to answer their personal objections for the thousandth time.
So we have ample precedent in Scripture that a unified tribal nation is the most just society possible. It’s not just good; it’s effective. It’s just. We also have ample precedent one tribe cannot rule another for too long. If there is a tribe with some implacable hatred for your tribe, you either need to put some distance or other major barrier between your tribes, absorb them completely and dissipate their identity, or destroy them. If they are less than implacable, the options are much greater. You can even share the same space, so long as there is mutual respect and a maintenance of separate identities. Obviously, it requires sharing substantial cultural elements. The more foreign, the less possible it is.
Cosmopolitan neutrality is possible only in select urban environs, not in the living space itself. Precious few humans can maintain their personal integrity by living in such a city, so precious few should try it. Again, this is the immutable facts of human nature. Enter the cosmo-place, do your business, then go home. Aside from the wholly different question of spiritual matters above human ken, there is a distinct human need to grow, then maintain, an identity which is related to a tribal society. There is an awful lot of room for fairly radical differences across human cultures even while we assume for the sake of discussion they all embrace the assumptions behind God’s Laws.
It’s not hard to understand, then, why some modern nations are so very stable regardless of their peculiar economic and political policies, and others are such wretched places regardless of their politics. Yes, there are problems everywhere, because all humanity is fallen. Yet within that assumption we see some places are downright attractive right now with their internal stability, and other places should be avoided at all costs.
Finland is nice; England is hideous. Whatever else you might say about the Finns, they are united in a vast range of common assumptions. They are closer to a tribal nation — one nation. The variations are mild and narrow. England has never been so.
England has always been one tribe ruling the rest. Not just rivalry between common stocks of people, but utterly alien nations always conquering and lording it over whomever was doing it before. You can pretend it was all one people, but it never has been. Inherent in the cultural roots of every people who have lived there is some awful assumption of absolutism in politics. This is the very foundation of warrior societies in the West. They are absolutist in demands, truculent in expression of them, and delighted to rub your faces in it with their feet pressing down against the backs of your heads. They aren’t content to win; they must glory in the misery and sorrow they bring to others. This shows in all the political assumptions you see in the UK and America. There has never been any real unity, nor can there be.
Sure, look at the vast ferment of intelligence, the energy to build and conquer. And then look at how it was born to die by its own hand. We could go further and talk about the fatalism of Germanic tribal cultural assumptions, but it’s no longer the point. What we have today is easily explained by the internal disunity of any given nation. Dominance by alien peoples is the result of denying the necessity and justness of tribal existence. The greatest empires of history lasted for so long only because they recognized this basic human fact, and fell when they forgot it. A basic assumption of God’s Laws includes the realization no tribe is best or better, but one of many. No tribe deserves to rule the others.
This brings us back to that implacable hatred. Holding someone under your feet is not a solution to conflict. God Himself won’t tolerate that for long (we do have to keep in mind His sense of time is totally different, though). He’ll keep blessing the downtrodden tribe so they rise up and make trouble for their overlords. The pain of hatred is the womb of warfare innovation, but peace is not possible on what people can dream up as some brilliant solution. Peace is not possible merely through civil rights so called, but by national rights and a tribal identity.
American politics in particular is inherently nasty. It presumes the fantasy of a single nation, which it has never been, and cannot be. It has always been an empire, and the big lie has been you can absorb all sorts of folks as they are, and ignore the tribal nature. Indeed, it has been to destroy the tribal identity, and replace with a fragmented loyalty to any number of new fake tribes, by associations which, at best, are a feeble replacement for a genuine tribe. The hatred is inculcated even as it is verbally denied. The most implacable hatreds grow and we are a nation of conflict forced to channel our warfare in ways the imperial government will tolerate. It’s layer upon layer of lies. The hope is this big lie permits a unified imperial policy which invades down the very core of what color underwear a man wears, and how often he washes it, and with what. If your every breath can be regulated, vast sums of profit can be made by whomever gets the contract on supplying your breath.
America has shook her fist in God’s face from the very beginning, and richly deserves to be destroyed. Human tribes will be here, by very human necessity, long after America is forgotten. The tribe which triumphs is not the one which holds the guns and collects the tribute; that will change inevitably and often. Nor is the tribe with builds the biggest and best and brightest, because whomever takes control of what was built won’t care who built it, and are unlikely to reverence its true source.
No, the tribe which will triumph is the tribe which remains a tribe. The nation within any empire which manages to remain a nation will outlive every empire which rules them. It is the nation which endures because what they have is more precious than all the other things humanity pursues, and the people of that nation never forget the single immutable fact of their existence is their tribal identity.

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An Hour of Truth 4

He stopped and placed his hands on his thighs. Turning his thumbs outward, he locked his elbows. “At this point, ladies, I really have to focus on the guys, but the principles would be the same either way. You’ll grasp what I’m saying, probably more easily than the boys, if you are honest with yourselves.”
“Men, it’s on you to break out of this madness. The chances of you finding the right gal, the ultimate sweetheart, at this age is about zero. You aren’t ready for her, and in this society, she’s not ready for you. There’s nothing wrong with friendships to help you sharpen your understanding of these things, but you simply aren’t going to form a lasting bond at this stage of the game, so stop lying to yourself. The only thing truly worthy of your devotion is figuring out who you are and what your mission is. Even if only with a partial understanding, when you find your mission, you’ll be a man worthy of her attention.”
He stood straight for emphasis. Lifting his cupped hands again. “The path isn’t a straight line. The best way to find a women worth having is to be almost too busy to mess with her. Whether she’s hot, or simply available, has nothing to do with it. The one thing you need most from her is that her mission is you. You won’t recognize her until you are fully engaged in your mission. It’s up to her to show herself. She’ll show up and get involved because it calls to some need in her, something which drives her to act. She’ll realize the one thing in life worthy of her sacrifice and devotion is the man who’s pursuing her dreams already.”
He leaned back against the desk again, folding his arms across his chest. “When you realize a fine babe’s glorious beauty is simply a distraction, bait for a fool she doesn’t really want or need, you’ll be in a position to ignore all that flash and stay on your mission. You’ll draw women like flies, but you’ll know to swat ’em aside and stick with what really matters to you. The ones who get involved in your mission and stay with it are the only ones worth having.”
The thug spoke up again. “So what’s your mission, Mr. Jansen?”
The bell rang and the sounds of the pep rally breaking up could be heard and felt.
“My mission is to understand and teach stuff like this to people like you. Everything else is just a way to pay the bills.”
He resumed his seat behind the desk as the noise of student traffic flooded the hall outside the door like a tsunami. “Turn back around and ponder that for awhile. Maybe write an essay on it and see if they’ll take it as a valid assignment for something. Actually using what I said will probably keep you from coming back here again.”
A few minutes later he was relieved by one of the staff. Passing out into the still very noisy hallway, he threaded his way through the press of bored young people and found the front door again. No one stopped him this time as he left the building without looking back.
End

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An Hour of Truth 3

When he didn’t elaborate, the Goth girl asked, “Do you mean ‘mission’ in some religious sense?”
He stood up and casually strolled around the front of the desk. “It could include that, but it’s much more.” Resting his butt against the front edge of the desk, he stretched out his legs and crossed them at the ankles. “The only man worth having is the one who knows why he exists. Even if he’s wrong in the absolute sense, it’s his conviction which carries him through. It’s the reason, when things go absolutely crazy, he doesn’t put the muzzle of a gun in his mouth and pull the trigger. Whether accomplishing anything is reasonable or possible, it won’t matter. A real man has something he has to do.”
He crossed his arms. “It’s more than simple goals, education, career. Those are simply the methods and means; the mission is the thing a man must do, from which he could never walk away. It doesn’t change even if the whole world dies and he’s left alone. If he has the least conscious awareness of that thing, he’s a real man. It gives him the confidence to face any challenge, and the wisdom to ignore things that don’t matter.”
He turned and faced the two young ladies who got huffy at his earlier comment. “That’s what draws a woman’s admiration. Even when she consciously fails to admire it, her instincts betray her, making her want a piece of that.”
He stood and walked around the desk to face the one remaining section of an old chalkboard attached to the wall. “Here’s what usually happens at your age.” Picking up a piece of chalk, he wrote a word on the board: cathexis.
His manner became slightly dramatic as he warmed to the task of explaining. Turning back to the students, he held up his cupped left hand again. “Your hormones are raging.” Most of the kids snickered. “It’s all fresh and new. A lot of raw emotion wells up in places you don’t even understand. There is something you desperately need, and it’s too big and too confusing. Taking your cues from our basic social assumptions, you attempt to take the most direct path you can see to getting what you need” — holding up the cupped right hand.
“You are wide open. In your deception, you are primed for a certain set of cues. When your radar thinks it has identified a target, you dive in for the kill. That you often find someone willing to play along has nothing to do with whether that person can actually meet your needs. Most of the people you encounter in this building are suffering the same confused mess of burning need, so everyone is just grabbing the first thing that comes along. But we filter it through false ideals of what we ought to want, bogus cultural expectations.”
He returned to his half-sitting position on the front edge of the old desk. “We think it’s magic. There is that one ideal object of devotion out there who can save us from our misery, and we have to find them and win their affections. It won’t matter if they actually notice us; someone will stumble into that spotlight and we are lost in obsession.” He brought the two cupped hands almost together. “If it so happens they actually engage us in any way, we think we have found paradise. Our ego boundaries collapse.” He demonstrated with this hands opening flat, fingers splayed.
“For a time we lose sense of who we are, lost in the ecstasy of the moment. Our friends notice, but we are so desperate to hang onto this bit of paradise, no price is too great to pay in terms of adopting whatever changes seem most likely to nail this thing down.”
More snickers of recognition.
“That’s what ‘cathexis’ means,” pointing a thumb at the board behind him. “It’s almost like a religious conversion. Our beloved becomes our demigod or demigoddess. Too often they’ll sense this, and take advantage of us. Even if only at some instinctive level, when you place someone on a pedestal, they will hardly be able to do anything different. They’ll consume what you have to offer, but eventually it gets tiresome and they’ll drop you like a used Kleenex. And when you are both love-struck blind, it’s simply a question of whose ego boundaries snap back into place first.”

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