Another thing that’s been cooking in the back of my soul is that not everything children do is childish. On the one hand there is that verse about putting away childish things, but then Jesus also said regarding children, “of such is the Kingdom of Heaven.”
A peculiar mistake American women make is that men being men means they are childish. This, of course, rises from the feminist spite for men. And this, in turn, rises from the Western traditions rooted in our Germanic heritage that insists women are the roots of civilization, more valuable to society than men. This is a pagan notion, not at all consistent with the Hebrew assumptions about reality.
The Bible states flatly that Eve didn’t comprehend the moral threat of eating the Forbidden Fruit. Paul goes on to clarify that Eve was deceived because of her own created feminine nature. And while men can be morally deceived, it’s a matter of their fallen nature, not their created nature.
The accusation that a man is being childish almost always comes in the context of a man who doesn’t bow the knee to the variable breezes of her feelings at any given moment. She works from the assumption that, whatever she feels at any given moment, everyone around her must also feel. She quickly forgets that her childlike girlish instincts can also flair up.
There are some people in this world specially gifted with a talent for teaching children. They remember being a child and empathize with that huge mountain of understanding children have to climb. They remember not knowing things, and how they learned. These adults are capable of getting inside a child’s world and guiding them to security and competence. Unfortunately, this is not a part of what the system looks for when selecting people to become school teachers.
That’s in part because there are flaws that come in the same package, and those flaws frighten women in particular who lack that gift. Women who cannot understand children can still mother well enough, but they refuse to take advantage of the gifts God gives to men and women who do understand children. They associate that package with danger because they know bad things can happen, but “bad things” as measured only by people who don’t understand children.
It’s a vicious circle. Our society rejects the good things children, and childlike adults, do because it’s economically inefficient. So when that behavior shows up in adults, it’s a really big annoyance to those who lack the vitality of a wonder and joy about the world. It just so happens that virtually everyone who steers society lacks that wonder and joy, in part because children don’t want to steer society that way. The desire to steer society through rules is anti-child, anti-joy and anti-wonder. Joy and wonder take time, and greedy people think time is like money. They can’t stop and smell the flowers.
Thus, those who are sensitive to joy and wonder as children get damaged by TPTB. They come into adulthood with a lot of unfinished business. Do you not realize that the vast majority of pedophiles are adults with a lot of unfinished business like that? If you create a social structure that hates joy and wonder, you cannot avoid having pedophiles. Our society permits all kinds of perversion. If you create a structure that embraces perversion without understanding its implications, it is tantamount to embracing all perversions.
Let’s get one thing straight: God is not nearly as worried about child molestation as Americans are. With average Americans it’s the crime of the millennium, but in God’s eyes it’s actually a rather small problem built into the fallen world.
Meanwhile, the same joyless powers-that-be have this false notion that we cannot help pedophiles. They have zero faith in God to heal the hurts that create pedophilia in the first place. Go ahead, let a recovered pedophile testify to God’s grace in any church. Watch how folks will drag their children to the far side of the room from that person. Their paranoia is precisely the kind of thing that provokes children to curiosity about such people. Children ask, “Why is he/she so dangerous?” And it’s the healed pedophile’s sensitivity about children what will draw children.
It’s not the presence of children that makes a pedophile desire sex with them. It’s the presence of sexual perversion, the winking and laughing about it, that awakens their own perverse desires. If you build a society that is too embarrassed at its own perversions to examine the underlying psychosis of pedophilia, the problem never goes away. Society itself needs to be healed.
Hebrew society took human sexual desire, with perversions, for granted. It didn’t demonize them. It was just a natural result of the Fall. Nor can you get from the Bible the obsession that sex is only for procreation. Sex should be play; thus, the KJV refers to Isaac “sporting” with Rebecca, which betrayed the nature of their relationship. Children are actually a joyful side effect, not some onerous duty. The Bible frankly leaves the door wide open for joyful exploration of sexual experience — within the safe boundaries of lifetime covenant commitment.
Women, if you don’t embrace the childlike joy of your husband, you are pushing him to sexual wandering, to include pedophilia. If you can’t enjoy the childlike moments we all should have — the joy and wonder about things — then you cannot fill his needs. If you cannot be the gal he needs, stay out of his life in the first place. He will be frustrated and hate you for being a chain and ball, instead of being his partner in facing the world. If you must dominate, and cannot surrender yourself to responsiveness, you have already killed the relationship.


