She’s the Boss…

Of some things. Lest you think I promote the idea that women are powerless, let’s point out some areas in which the Bible says she rules.

Granted, the Bible sees exceptionally few cases where women might not marry. Regardless whether a marriage is arranged under feudal customs, the Bible makes it clear that a woman always has veto over the match. If she knows something and cannot bear the idea of living with that man, she doesn’t have to marry him. Granted, she may not get another match ever, but she can refuse to marry someone she doesn’t like.

This is why there are some ancient customs about letting the two meet with chaperons present, should the man be someone from outside her community. In actual practice, the majority of marriages were between folks who had a passing familiarity at a minimum. It was the man’s duty to accomplish the final wooing.

Today, we would simply say that it’s ladies’ choice. We don’t have much else to go on. The western custom of male pursuit and courtship of the woman is flatly wrong.

In the Bible, while the man owned the physical tent/house, the only valid reason for having one was to house the lady and children. She becomes the mistress of the home; in that sense, it is “hers”. From the smallest hovel to the greatest imperial palace, the queen of the household ran the house. The man never poked his nose in her business except in the most rare conditions. She could order repairs and some modification to the facility, but it varied with historical context. She could also run a side business that did not interfere with the man’s reputation or interests.

Most men reserved personnel decisions for themselves, though. The people were his treasure, and she was the crowning jewel of that wealth. Christ said that His Father intended there be only one husband and one wife; all his sexual energies were her property, and vice versa.

The early life of the children was also her domain. Somewhere around age six the boys would start dividing time between playing together and watching the menfolk work, but they no longer played with girls. At age nine, both boys and girls became a vested interest of the entire extended family or community. In Hebrew tradition, that meant that their death required an inquest. Until that time, their death was simply a private loss. Both boys and girls became apprentices for their future careers at that point. Either might benefit being apprenticed outside the home. At age twelve, boys were confirmed by bar-mitzvah as Sons of the Covenant.

I’ll let you figure out how this applies today. The main principle is that gender separation occurs at age six, and locks in at age nine. The mother generally surrenders her sons gradually between six and nine. In some ANE cultures, “weaning” is a euphemism for this process, and the ages vary.

While her authority remains a matter of delegation from her covering, a woman still had that authority by biblical tradition. These are just a sample of that principle.

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One Response to She’s the Boss…

  1. Jay DiNitto says:

    In some ways, women had way more power than they do now. If they had a household domain, and whatever else their male covering apportioned to them, then they ruled over it (with caveats, naturally). They had something they could call their own. Now, women are one paycheck or one medical issue away from losing their fake domain because it’s based on a propped-up hierarch– the workplace, where their boss couldn’t care about the woman the way their male covering could, even if there is a care for the woman at a personal level–or the system of fiat currency, where a banker absolutely doesn’t care about you personally at all.

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